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Marriage is one of the most significant moments in a person’s life. It marks the start of a new chapter filled with hope, love, and commitment. For me, becoming a marriage celebrant was not just a career choice but a calling to be part of these meaningful moments. This post shares my personal journey, the reasons behind my decision, and what I have learned along the way.


Discovering the Role of a Marriage Celebrant


I first encountered the role of a marriage celebrant at a close friend’s wedding. The celebrant’s words were heartfelt and genuine, creating an atmosphere that felt both personal and special. It struck me how much impact a celebrant has on the ceremony, shaping the experience for the couple and their guests.


Before that day, I had never considered this path. I was drawn to the idea of helping people express their love and commitment in a way that truly reflected who they are. The role goes beyond just officiating a legal ceremony; it involves storytelling, empathy, and connection.


What Motivated Me to Take the Leap


Several factors motivated me to become a marriage celebrant:


  • A desire to create meaningful experiences: I wanted to help couples celebrate their unique stories in a way that felt authentic.

  • Love for public speaking and storytelling: I enjoy speaking in front of people and crafting narratives that resonate.

  • Flexibility and independence: Being a celebrant allows me to work on my own terms and meet a variety of people.

  • Making a positive impact: Being part of a couple’s special day is rewarding and fulfilling.


These reasons combined to make the decision clear. I wanted to contribute to something joyful and lasting.


Training and Preparation


Becoming a marriage celebrant requires more than passion. I enrolled in a formal training program with the Celebrants Training College that covered legal requirements, ceremony planning, and communication skills. The course included:


  • Understanding marriage celebrancy and the laws

  • Designing personalised ceremonies

  • Public speaking techniques

  • Handling unexpected situations during ceremonies


The training was intensive but necessary. It gave me confidence and the tools to perform my role professionally. I also learned the importance of attention to detail and clear communication with couples.


The First Ceremony Experience


My first ceremony at Mudbrick Vineyard on stunning Waiheke Island was both exciting and nerve-wracking. I worked closely with the couple to understand their vision and helped them write their vows. On the day, I focused on staying calm and present.


The moment I pronounced them married, I felt a deep sense of accomplishment. Seeing the smiles, hearing the laughter, and witnessing the emotions made all the preparation worthwhile. It confirmed that this was the right path for me.


Challenges and Rewards


Like any role, being a marriage celebrant comes with challenges:


  • Managing nerves before ceremonies

  • Adapting to different personalities and preferences

  • Handling last-minute changes or unexpected weather

  • Balancing multiple bookings during busy seasons


Despite these challenges, the rewards are immense. Each ceremony is unique, and being part of such a personal event is a privilege. The gratitude from couples and their families is a constant reminder of the value of this work.


Tips for Aspiring Marriage Celebrants


If you are considering becoming a marriage celebrant, here are some practical tips:


  • Invest in quality training: Understand the legal and practical aspects thoroughly.

  • Develop your public speaking skills: Practice to build confidence and clarity.

  • Build strong relationships with couples: Listen carefully and personalise each ceremony.

  • Stay organized: Keep track of paperwork, schedules, and details.

  • Be adaptable: Expect the unexpected and remain calm under pressure.


These steps will help you deliver memorable ceremonies and grow your reputation.


The Impact on My Life


Becoming a marriage celebrant has enriched my life in many ways. It has expanded my social circle, improved my communication skills, and given me a sense of purpose. I have witnessed countless expressions of love and commitment, which inspires me daily.


This role has taught me the importance of presence and empathy. Each ceremony is a reminder that love takes many forms and deserves to be celebrated with sincerity.



A common question I get asked when meeting a couple for the first time is “What needs to be and what's usually included in a ceremony?”. I thought it might be helpful to pass on my learnings in simple terms…


Here is the basic structure of a typical ceremony and although there are a few parts that do tend to always be included (the legalities), it’s important to bear in mind that there’s no right or wrong – it’s your ceremony and that means it can be as customised as you want it to be and with your own flavour.


1. Wedding party entrance – depending on your ceremony style, you may already be present at the ceremony location, or else you may enter with a support party and walk down the aisle, often with music playing.


2. Opening remarks – your celebrant will welcome everyone and set the atmosphere for the celebration to follow.


3. Reflection on your marriage – the celebrant will often share your love story, what the commitment means to you and your hopes for the future.


4. Readings – you may ask some of your guests to offer their well wishes and this could perhaps be through a reading, a poem, or a song that suits your relationship.


5. Declaration of intent – the “I do” part, you both confirm that you are willingly entering into a binding relationship.


6. Exchanging of vows – next, it’s time for you both to say your wedding vows and the legal requirement of the ceremony “I…take you…as my wedded wife/husband”. It is the time to express your love and make some personal promises to each other.


7. Exchanging of rings – then you'll exchange rings with a few words from the celebrant about their significance.

8. Unifying ritual - an optional element is the inclusion of a ritual such as a sand ceremony, candle lighting or tree planting as a symbol of your unification into a new entity.


9. Pronouncement of marriage – next comes your official introduction to your guests as husband and wife, or wife and wife, or husband and husband AND “You may share your first kiss as a married couple!”.


10. The signing – signing the Particulars of Marriage is a legal requirement of any marriage ceremony in New Zealand and you will also need two witnesses to sign that they have witnessed you saying your vows.


11. Closing remarks - an opportunity for the celebrant and perhaps your family and friends, to share a few final words, and for you to be introduced as Mr and Mrs or the New Couple.


12. Recessional – now it’s time to move on from the ceremony to your reception to party and you’ll exit as newly weds followed by the bridal party and often to music and loud cheers!


Remember, this is only a guideline, and I will work with you to shape your ceremony to you.




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